How long should a one-to-one meeting be?

Thirty minutes is enough for most regular one-to-ones if the agenda is prepared in advance and the conversation stays focused. Sixty minutes makes sense when there is development, feedback, or longer-term planning to work through. The length matters less than the preparation. A well-prepared thirty-minute meeting often produces more than an hour of unstructured catch-up.

Is it okay to use one-to-ones to raise problems or concerns?

Yes, that is exactly what they are for. One-to-ones are the appropriate place to raise things that are not working, to flag early problems, and to have honest conversations about expectations and performance. The alternative is raising these things in group settings or not raising them at all, both of which are worse. A good one-to-one is a safe space for the real conversation.

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How to Get More From Your One-to-Ones

One-to-one meetings are some of the most valuable time in a working week, yet most people treat them as a catch-up rather than a tool. Here is how to use them well.

26 August 2026 · 5 min read

A one-to-one meeting should be one of the most useful recurring events in your working week. It is time with a person who can unblock you, align your priorities, give you honest feedback, and help you develop. Used well, it is irreplaceable. Used badly, it becomes thirty minutes of vague chat that leaves both people wondering what was actually accomplished.

The difference between a good one-to-one and a mediocre one usually comes down to two things: preparation and ownership. Most people arrive without either.

Come with an agenda, every time

The most impactful habit you can build around one-to-ones is keeping a running note between meetings. As things come up during the week, things you want to discuss, decisions you need input on, problems you are stuck on, you add them to the list. By the time the meeting arrives, you have a real agenda rather than whatever you can remember in the moment.

This changes the dynamic significantly. You arrive knowing what you want from the conversation. The time is used for the things that actually matter to you rather than what happens to surface when you sit down together.

Do not use it for status updates

One of the most common ways one-to-ones get wasted is by filling them with information that could be shared in writing. Walking your manager through what you are working on, line by line, is a poor use of protected one-to-one time. Send a brief written update before the meeting if context is needed, and use the meeting itself for discussion.

The best questions to bring to a one-to-one are the ones that need a conversation: decisions that require their judgment, feedback you cannot get any other way, concerns that have been sitting with you, and thinking you want to test with someone who has more context than you do.

Ask for what you actually need

People often leave one-to-ones without getting what they came for because they did not name it directly. If you need a decision, say so. If you want feedback rather than reassurance, ask for it specifically. If you are looking for direction rather than a sounding board, make that clear at the start.

Managers often default to what they think you want rather than what you need. Being direct about the kind of help you are looking for gets you there faster and makes the meeting more useful for both of you.

Follow up in writing

Anything agreed in a one-to-one should be written down afterwards. Not a formal document, just a brief note: what was decided, what you are doing, what they are doing, by when. Decisions made in conversation without any record have a way of being remembered differently by each person. A short follow-up message removes the ambiguity and holds both sides to what was actually agreed.

Over time, this record also becomes useful. Patterns emerge. You can see what keeps coming up, what progress looks like over months, and what conversations you have been avoiding.

Common questions

How long should a one-to-one be?

Thirty minutes is enough for most regular meetings if the agenda is prepared in advance. A well-prepared thirty-minute meeting often produces more than an hour of unstructured catch-up.

What if my manager does not prepare?

Own the agenda yourself. Send a short list of topics before the meeting. Most managers follow your lead if you consistently bring a clear structure. You get a focused conversation either way.

Is it okay to raise problems in one-to-ones?

Yes, that is exactly what they are for. One-to-ones are the right place for honest conversations about what is not working, early problems, and expectations. The alternative is raising these things in group settings or not at all, both of which are worse.

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